4 Unexpected Tips for Cultivating Self-Love

I will be the first to admit that the self-reflection that arises on the journey to self-love can be really uncomfortable…but that journey is also incredibly rewarding. In fact, I believe self-love is so fundamental to our health, happiness and success that I created a course dedicated to guiding you on your journey. Today I am sharing my top 4 (perhaps unexpected) tips for cultivating unshakable love for yourself:

1. Allow yourself to be lonely

I know this can be an incredibly difficult, uncomfortable and scary task. In order to deeply love yourself, you have to deeply know yourself. You have to face it all head on, you have to embrace the good and the bad, the joy and pain. One of the best ways to do this is to sit in silence with a journal, and just meditate on it, see what comes up. Ask yourself “what do you need me to know”? Whatever comes up, feel it, embody it, be curious about it. You have to allow yourself to be lonely to achieve true self-love.

2. See yourself from a loved one’s perspective

Step out of your boy for a moment, if you were your best friend or a loved one, what do they see when they look at you? Why do THEY love you? Or, imagine your best friend or loved one with all your characteristics & traits, how would you speak to them? Encourage them? Compliment them? Why would YOU love them? Seeing yourself from a different perspective can help you acknowledge and accept yourself, exactly as you are. We are far more critical and demanding of ourselves then we are of the people we love.

3. Allow yourself to grieve for the parts of you you’ve lost

While we are shedding the limiting beliefs, fears and habits that no longer serve us, we are letting go of a part of us. You have most likely been operating from this self-limiting model for years, it is sad and scary to let go of the familiar & comfortable even if it was holding us back and harming us in the long run. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions arise on this journey, you are allowed to miss who you used to be but know that a stronger, happier healthier version of you is rising from the ashes and she is going to take you places you wouldn’t have imagined. Feel the feels, journal on it, work through it, then let it go and embrace your new normal, your best-self, your new best friend.

4. Allow yourself to say “yes” AND “no” more

Part of loving, respecting and honouring ourselves is empowering ourselves to say “yes” to anything that lights up our heart, and “no” to anything that does not serve you.

I want to stress that self-love is a daily decision, it is not something you achieve and wash your hands of and it is certainly not always easy. It is an ongoing commitment to care for yourself though your words, thoughts and actions and a commitment to grow, learn and evolve. So, if you’re ready to start living your most authentic, happiest life, register for my Transformative Self-Love course before Saturday, Sept 25th and save $100! Comment, email or DM on social if you have any questions or concerns.